One of the most powerful things I’ve had to do to grow is stop judging others and it lead to me to stop judging myself so harshly.
When we seek to observe and understand instead of judge we can figure out the good intention behind our behaviours and patterns and can then then figure out a better strategy.
When we judge ourselves we remain unconscious as we lack the compassion to hold space for how we feel.
So if you have unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships with others. Spend time nurturing the relationship with yourself.
Sometimes that means putting yourself first and learning boundaries, having time away from people and perhaps express your needs. But all that has to come from within.
You have to choose yourself before you can choose anyone else.